Drift! (858)

 Tom and Jerry where standing on the same iceburg , when it suddenly cracked. As the ice sheets started flowing freely in the water, they moved away from each other. This was lucky for Jerry , of course. Because i have seen him being chased by Tom for almost 20 years and this time he most certainly would have been done for.

Try putting  ice cubes in a bucket of water and observe how they move. They drift apart from each other , even if the water is still. There is no repulsion, no attraction, no laws of physics here. They just move freely at their will. Maybe two cubes come together in due course of time, but only to separate again.

With time, I have come to see important things in life work in the same way. Be it love or friendship.

When we were together at one place, it was all too easy, but with time things have changed. We are working now, we are miles away from one another and to add to all this, our work timings and days also differ. Basically making sticking together as difficult as it can be.

Being swamped with work for most of the day, even if we are in the same city, there are times  when we don't meet one another for weeks. 

It is said good friends can pick up a conversation from where they left even after ages. but does this happen?
With time people change, maybe slowly, but they do change. So what happens to this conversation that was lost in past. When you regain it, you might be a different person and the one you are talking to might not think the same way as the one who you remember. Well this would be awkward , wouldn't it?
(Imagine me, thinking gaping at chicks is perverted !!! Don't worry not going to happen)

According to Simon and Garfunkal  "Silence like a cancer grows". As i have noticed in past couple of weeks , this is actually true. Longer you don't talk to a person harder it is to start getting back in touch again, even harder to be in touch the same way that you used to be.

Let's say there is someone who is near you and yet so busy that there is no time for the two of you to meet, or talk , whereas once upon a time you couldn't  stay apart from each other. and now suppose one of you keeps trying to put in efforts but other is just too busy, what happens than? I guess by the time other person realises what's happened you have already moved to an other place. A place where you don't feel that breaking the silence is a top priority. You still want to talk, just that now it's different, you don't know what to talk about , and when you do talk it bugs you that how come there is nothing to talk about !!!

The closer you were, once upon a time, more painful is the growth in silence. Especially if this silence has come because of a trvial reasons, and worse if one of the two person thinks that the other one is the cause of the silence.

Earlier it was a challenge to keep in touch with everyone. But now it's pretty easy. With arrival of mobile,  chats, facebook and the latest BBM people should not have any reason not to stay in touch, apart from well not wanting to. But it's amazing to see that people still manage to drift away !!!

As mota puts it " i don't see a reason why people critisize facebook" , i feel it is one thing that has slowed down the drift. We are connected , not as well as we would have liked to be, but we are still talking to one another! we still know where our friends are! and how to reach them.

But is this enough? That's something we need to figure out. From being together all the time to writing on wall once a week, will we still be the same?
 

If Tom really wanted to catch Jerry, he would have to put lot of efforts on rowing that iceberg to reach closer, also the efforts is proportional to the distance. If Jerry on the other hand kept rowing away, it would become even more difficult for Poor Tom, and sooner or later he would give up the chase and look for something alternative. Alternative wouldn't be the same as Jerry but he would have to make do, what other choice does he have?? 

We aren't Tom and Jerry here, one is not chasing the other one to kill it ( i might be an exception), but to be together. So no matter how distant you are it's high time to start rowing back. Because there is someone whose desperately trying to row towards you and you are not making things easy for him. Be back before you get too far away, before he turns around, before you loose something amazing just because you didn't have the time to reconsider, to rethink and to return !